The Ugly Concept Of Beauty

Filed under: Media, International, Women — Eman at 6:47 pm on Tuesday, March 20, 2007

I’ve always believed that beauty has no rules, limits, or standards. Beauty, I strongly believe, is a matter of taste. There is no such things as “beauty idols”, or “steps to beauty”, or anything of the kind.

Whoever may look beautiful in the eyes of someone, might look normal, or even ugly in the eyes of someone else. That’s because -no matter how hard people try to say otherwise- beauty is not limited to the outside looks only but consists also of many factors that include the character as well as the behavior.

So,I like to always insist that beauty is an inside out thing, limited by nothing other than our own taste. That’s why I find this constant striving to perfection of looks simply ridiculous. And women -even little girls- are becoming obsessed with this ridiculous striving, and many are willing to do anything just to attract others and be called “beautiful”.

I believe that, in order to be truly beautiful, a woman needs to:
- be herself.
- avoid being a slave to fashion trends.
- be really confident.
- be proud of her looks, as well as her age.
- be as natural and simple as possible.

But unfortunately, with the help of media, our concept of beauty is evolving in the ugliest way ever. People are being subject to brainwashing on daily basis; beauty lost its natural precious values and is being transformed into an artificial product.
Women imitate this product, they look for magical touches to hide whatever they wish to hide, willing to pay fortunes and work their heads off just to maintain whatever that artificial product possesses.
Women have become unbelievably afraid of aging, they lie about their age, they are ashamed of who they really are, they prefer the masks they could buy to hide their true looks and their real age!
What a shame!
I believe many women need a wakeup call, to get back to their senses and show them the real meaning of beauty… that’s why I simply LOVE Dove’s campaign for real beauty.(Arabic…)
I hope women will finally realize that age, skin color, body shape, do not define beauty unless we want them to, so please, don’t let stuff like that hold you back or scare you or limit your potential to be a really beautiful being in your life.

5 Comments »

Comment by Qwaider قويدر

March 20, 2007 @ 7:14 pm

The purpose of the media is to commercialize the way we look at everything, beauty included. How can anyone sell something that people don’t want? Create a want, create a need. And you’ll find people coming to you with thier requests.
That’s what the media does, idolizing specific features as beauty and have crowds fall for thier scheme. Even create an ecosystem whereby these crowds practice peer-pressure on non believers to make them fall in-line with the flow
If there is a new blaspheme, it would be the new beauty/celebrity/glamour warship … and it’s getting worse

Comment by Andrea

March 21, 2007 @ 2:38 pm

I couldn’t agree more with you!
Hey, and just by accident I stumbled upon this video from them too:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdSAYS05iQA&feature=PlayList&p=B77856AF14F28A8C&index=0
Enjoy!

Comment by Eman-

March 25, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

Eman,

you are right.. but THAT is easily said than done..Eve by nature has always been trying to impress Adam, if Adam is silly & shallow , there are -on the otherhand- many Eves who are the same also, trying to attract those silly shallow men, and if Adam is sensible, aware, and wise ..there will be , on the otherhand- women who are the same..and know that beauty is skin deep.

Put media aside, and money makers, and put aside too the commercials, We are all really brainwashed, and unfortunately we grew up believing that beauty has certain measurements.. and we all carry this false idea about beauty, unless otherwise is proven by perhaps some painful experience….

Believe me, I’m not exaggerating when i say that even hiring and recruiting is sometimes based on appearance and looks.

Appearance-based hiring is statistically increasing in some countries, its is recognized and discussed openly.. it is considered racism in some countries but its a fact, using appearance as a hiring criterion, didn’t u notice that good-looking women sit in front in banks and less-fortunate looking women sit backhouse of the banks ( that of course if they were hired in the first place(..

Now, In marriages, its even more complicated story! Beauty is a matter of taste as you said, but If marriage was not tied with beauty, women wont strive to look more beautiful and aiming perfection to attract men!.. Awareness, correct perception, and the depth required in human relationships is the key towards the real meaning.

جاء في وصية ابن جني لبنيه:

( يا بني لا يحملنكم جمال النساء على صراحة البنت وكرم العنصر، فإن الناكح الكريمة مدرجة الشرف، إن الجمال ونضارة الشباب تزيلها السنون، وإن المال غاد ورائح، ولا يبقى إلا الدين، فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك ).

and when we say Religion, we mean moralitym ethics and decency.. :)

Hope i didnt bore you to death…heheh

nice post.. keep it up

Eman ( bardo)

Comment by nuh ibn zbigniew gondek al kitab

March 28, 2007 @ 4:02 pm

As salaam alaikum.

Beauty is such a subjective concept. It’s a good thing television to let me know what beauty is!

I am a Canadian Muslim writer. Come by insha’Allah if your up for some reading.

Ma’as salaama,

nuh ibn

Comment by mohammad

April 3, 2007 @ 1:12 pm

what a beautiful writing :-) very good one
talking about beauty … Habibi Adam, he took my heart away :-(

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