You Are What You…?

Filed under: General — Eman at 10:37 pm on Tuesday, February 26, 2008

I was reading “What Defines A Person?” and it got me really thinking of how we people sometimes refer to things that might be really insignificant, or better say shallow, and yet decide to make them the standards, through which we define other people we know.

MMM lists many arguments: some people are defined by what they think, or what they say or believe, or they’re defined by their religion… and I must agree with him that these are all unreliable standards. The closest to defining the real identity of people, as he mentions, is defining people by what they do, i.e. by their actions.

There’s another thing that I’ve always believed would tell you so much about a person. It wont necessarily define that person, but it will surely help knowing a lot about them… it’s food.  Can we say a person is what he eats? I believe yes we can, in a way. Now you must know that a person’s health condition, or physical shape, or skin condition, or a person’s stress levels, mental health or even criminal tendencies… are all things that could reflect what that person eats. But what if we look at it from a different angle? what if we try to have the choice of food reflect that person and define him, is that possible? let’s see…
The choice of food tells you a lot about a person’s taste, a person who knows good quality cooking, and to whom eating is a pleasure is a person with good taste, and is definitely different from a person who eats just to feed his hunger not bothering what the hell he’d throw in his stomach.

The choice of food also tells you a lot about that person’s financial situation; if he only eats in expensive restaurants or hotels it means he can afford it, but if he always chooses cheap places, that means he’s seriously on a tight budget.

The choice of food tells you a lot about a person’s personality. If he chooses always the same kind of food that means he’s the type who likes to play it safe, or he’s the classic kind of people. But if he tries new menus every time, it means he’s adventurous and daring.

Food can also tell you about the ethnic background, because, not always, but quite often, people would cook food they’re used to eat in their own countries or family homes, even when they’re abroad.

Another interesting thing food can help you know is religion, yeah, if the person eats no pork there’s a big chance he’s either a Muslim or a Jew! Food can also give you a glimpse about a person’s own beliefs/principals; if he’s vegetarian, or vegan then he strongly believes in animal rights ;)
You can know a bit about a person’s health condition by their choice of food. If he constantly avoids nuts, milk, flour-based dishes or any other ingredient, then he’s allergic to these ingredients. If he avoids fatty foods then he’s on diet, either for health-related reasons or just for staying fit ;) which brings me to the fact that food would tell you a lot about a person’s education, or nutrition-awareness. An educated person who’s well-informed about food would -usually- select a healthy meal that will nourish his body; while a poorly informed person;s selection of food would end up with a meal that will just stuff his stomach and most probably pile fat in his body and hurt his health!
So I believe yes, we certainly can know a lot about a person if we know what he eats…

8 Comments »

Comment by Hani Obaid

February 27, 2008 @ 12:56 am

nice post. The generalisations are mostly applicable, except the part about the person choosing healthier food the more educated they are. Knowing the right thing to do and actually doing it aren’t the same thing.

Comment by Janissary

February 27, 2008 @ 3:55 am

Reminds me that one can keep the better attributes of one’s heritage while fleeing some of the rest. I fled that oxymoron, English cuisine. A nice holiday treat for the family when I was young was Haggis:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Haggis

with dessert a bit of spotted dick:
http://msmeow.blogspot.com/2007/08/spotted-dick.html

Check out the recipes, or at least their titles, of the staples of England of the Napoleonic Wars, and you’ll see a cardiologist’s dream and the basis of the New England cuisine I was raised on:
http://www.amazon.com/Lobscouse-Spotted-Dog-Gastronomic-Companion/dp/0393320944

Not for the feint of heart, eh? :)

Talk about Darwinism: I have the cholesterol “of an Olympic decathloner” according to my envious internist. I attribute it to centuries of people who either fattened for the winter to survive the cold and then had to fight for their lives in the warm season, or died. The family metabolism is thus geared towards obesity but able to slim down quickly, all without clogging the arteries.

Problem: it’s also very easy to fatten up. Eternal vigilance is necessary but tedious. And no, I don’t miss haggis or suet pudding. But I might kill for a decent British winter ale. One Imperial Pint, please.

Better parts of the Old Country traditions are inedible. Sir Arthur Conan Doyle’s epithet is one of my favorites:
Steel True Blade Straight

As to bad survival traits, my Mentoree called: his car was wrecked–not his fault, apparently. His employer gave him a bad performance review and his girlfriend drove by he and his wreckced car, in the vehicle of a male friend of his, both pointedly ignoring his plight as he waived frantically, shouting. (Note: she is five months pregnant with what he is somehow convinced is his child.) Not a good day for him.

He’ll probably react as he does to stress by going home, smoking dope and drinking himself into insensibility if not alcohol poisoning. I’ll do what I can, but change has to start from within and there’s yet no glimmer of that. (If he’s dead, who will beat me at Scrabble?) [virtual sigh]

Comment by Jasim

February 27, 2008 @ 7:37 am

Wow.. you spend a lot of time watching people eat :D
Well, I agree on the food thing, but I disagree that we can define a person by his actions, because sometimes it’s not our choice to do certain things!

Comment by Eman

February 27, 2008 @ 10:44 am

Hani, I totally agree with you, there are many factors that affect our choice of food, like for instance the lack of time we have to prepare healthy foods, or the lack of affordable healthy fast-food places where we can go. In short I think it’s the modern lifestyle that hinders us from getting healthy meals even though we’re educated. But what I had in mind, was the fact that well informed people would make the best out of what’s available. For example, if you know a lot about health, you might have bad meals sometimes but most of the time you would try to have a balanced meal as much as possible, or at least, if you do chose bad meals you’d have bad conscious about it ;) unlike those who wouldn’t mind eating unhealthy food all the time, every single day, and be both satisfied and happy!

Janissary, wow! again you left me speechless! I just love the amount of info. and humor in your comments! very informative. I actually heard about that English dessert you mentioned :) but have no idea about the rest, so thanks for the links.
Yeah, I believe obesity and heart-related problems are the signature of our time! healthy choices are hard to get, and in our part of the world are really expensive! but we try our best to keep it healthy!

I believe one of the biggest problems that accompany health problems like yours (and most of my family as well ;)) is the fact that we don’t exercise regularly!

I’m so sorry to hear about the poor boy, and again I’m very impressed that you’re sticking to this boy and never giving up on him. I just hope that he’ll realize that change comes from within before it’s too late!

By the way, I owe you a reply for your wonderful email, hopefully soon!

Jasim, LOL! no believe me I don’t do that all the time, but I have to admit that the financial condition part is what got me watching sometimes. See back in school I started noticing that the choice of food somehow reflects a person’s financial condition, and it broke my heart that many students didn’t afford a decent meal, and so I did my best to help by sharing my food without having them feel any embarrassment. And I did the same in university and after graduating, I did the same with my coworkers and even cleaning people, I used to offer them some of my meals, my excuse was: come taste this you’ll love it… or listen I brought a lot today why don’t we share!
So yes, I’m somehow guilty of watching people eat ;)

As for the action part, yes it’s not the perfect way to define a person, and it’s not always right, but relatively speaking, it is in my own personal opinion, the closest way to accurate, compared to the other methods listed that is!

Comment by Janissary

February 27, 2008 @ 12:32 pm

I believe one of the biggest problems that accompany health problems like yours (and most of my family as well ;) ) is the fact that we don’t exercise regularly!
========================================
There are of course hundreds of jokes about the dessert item, usually of the nature of one person offering to share some with another. :)

Isn’t weight control horrible? Weight gain is insidious! I dropped fifty pounds last summer–23kg to those of you who insist on a rational numbering system–but have put ten pounds back on since Christmas Holiday.

You should be fine–you have a Mediterranean diet, the best in the world since the Japanese wiped out all the fish they eat. Exercising with Adam at his age, though, isn’t ideal is it? He’s too big now to fit into one of those little kid backpacks, pushing a pram is too slow and he’s not up to a long, brisk walk. Plus you have to negotiate urban streets. And then there’s the summer heat. And those home gyms are horribly expensive and space-consuming.

There’s been some stress in my life since December–go figure :) –which I typically react to by e a t i n g. Have resumed control and am slowly restoring order. Walking an hour a day helps. Problem being that it’s so damned boring–always the same houses as I circle the block again and again and again. Ho hum. Hardly hell but certainly purgatory. (My daughter, the one with pink hair, says all the houses here “are trailers without wheels.” Am tempted to offer the owners help with painting their homes so I can at least have some color contrast as I walk.)

Sadly, the gentleman neighbor who used to go around cursing at everyone whose house was not painted either light olive drab or dark olive drab was in a brain-crippling automobile wreck and is no longer serving as Der Blocmeister.

If the cursing didn’t work for him, car tires would end up mysteriously flattened just as one was trying to get to work; I replaced three. (Drove him madder out there, always whistling, smiling, waving cheefuly as I changed yet another tire–they were fully insured. :) )

My wife decried one of my other neighbors and I as “horrible people” when we high-fived each other, elated at the news of the Der Blocmeister’s misfortune. I told her it was tangible proof for the existence of a just and omnipotent God. And was again decried as a horrible man. (Really, Eman, I’m not, but I was raised in a hard school.)
==========================================

I’m so sorry to hear about the poor boy, and again I’m very impressed that you’re sticking to this boy and never giving up on him. I just hope that he’ll realize that change comes from within before it’s too late!

============================================
Thank you. After a while these kids become family–you don’t even notice it happening.

When spoken with late last night he was obviously high but sober. (After a few years with “challenged teens” you can tell the difference by the voice; marijuana raises the pitch an octave.) His mother will now try to torture him into another alcohol poisoning episode, her eye on that juicy bequest his father’s mother is willing him when she dies; it falls to his mother should he pass on. (If the old granny would sell but one of her two unused Rolls Royce Silver Shadows the kid could spend a year in one of the country’s best residential treatment facilities for substance abuse.)

I said, “Are you going to keep going to Alcoholics Anonymous?” “Only when I’m drunk.” “You know your wry sense of humor is distinctly unAmerican and very German. And very dark.” “Oh, I’m dark? I’m dark?! Read any of your own books recently?” “It’s late. Go to bed.” “What, are you tucking me in?” “God knows someone needs to.” “Do you think we knew each other in a prior life?” “You’re babbling. Go to bed.” “No, really, do you think so?” “Maybe. If so, perhaps one of us got the both of us killed and here we are. Again. If you can’t sleep, go watch ‘Groundhog Day’. Bye.” “Bye.”
=================================
By the way, I owe you a reply for your wonderful email, hopefully soon!

===============================
Very pleased you enjoyed it. And as always very much looking forward to your reply.

Very best wishes to the three of you.

p.s. Wow. Woke up to 1.0 Euros to 1.5 dollars. Share my joy. Oh. “Kite Runner” is now on order from the video store. (The sequel novel is out.)

Comment by Jasim

February 27, 2008 @ 1:54 pm

Well I have to admit, I’m impressed. Honestly that’s a noble thing to do.

As for the financial condition I totally agree with you, people’s choice in food does reflect their financial condition.

As for me, I don’t share my food like you do, but I rather share theirs. For example if I felt that the person I am with can’t afford going to this place, I suggest going to a cheaper place pretending I don’t have enough money, it is a lie, but at the end of the day you’d feel good about yourself!

Comment by Eman

March 4, 2008 @ 3:01 pm

Janissary, I must say I got a bit worried when you mentioned in ur email, and here, that you’ve been a bit stressed lately. I’m just glad that you’re working it out. Food seems like the most desired resort I guess. There’s nothing wrong with that since food is really soothing, but make sure that as soon as u feel a bit better, you’ll try to work it out some other way. I usually turn to TV talk shows (only good encouraging ones) and inspiring books and feel really good about myself and my options in life after i do so :)

As for the boring neighborhood you live in, welcome to the club ;) I love walking in the green, but unfortunately, although Tunis is a very green country, but my neighborhood is anything but green, and when I walk I’m surrounded with never-ending high buildings that are simply copies of each other, with occasional trees here and there and lots of dust and noisy cars!

Yeah, exercising is impossible somehow with the presence of Adam, but I find housework (although also horrific with Adam around) but I find it a good alternative for the time being, and I try to take good long walks whenever weather is fine (walk for Adam, chasing and running for me).
Yeah actually our cuisine in the Arab world -with the exception of very few countries- is really healthy, but it’s the stressing modern life style that’s preventing many people from having the time and the pleasure of preparing a home-cooked meal! Not to mention how expensive the healthy options for eating outside really are!

Will write you soon, hope that you’re already feeling better, please make sure you do, many people depend on you :)

Comment by Eman

March 4, 2008 @ 3:05 pm

Jasim, wow! what you do with your friends is also extremely impressive. I mean it’s not easy to give up the places you like to go to and the quality of food you can afford just to let others not feel less than you. So yes, I’m happy people like you exist at a time where most people with money wont give a damn about others and would love to show off how rich they actually are to impress.
And yes, it feels really great after you’ve done something to help others or make them feel equal to you.

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URI

Leave a comment

XHTML: You can use these tags: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>