Comments on: Too Good To Be… “False” http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/ Drops of dew to tickle your senses. Wed, 17 Mar 2010 00:07:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Jasim http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-449294 Jasim Fri, 07 Mar 2008 13:06:44 +0000 http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-449294 Lool at our race, this race is doomed I say. :D I can't say I lost faith completely, I believe that there is out there someone who is good by nature, but those people are so hard to find you know. But all in all I'll try to make it 98%, good? :D That's really nice of you, thank you. :) Lool at our race, this race is doomed I say. :D

I can’t say I lost faith completely, I believe that there is out there someone who is good by nature, but those people are so hard to find you know. But all in all I’ll try to make it 98%, good? :D

That’s really nice of you, thank you. :)

]]> By: Janissary http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-449178 Janissary Fri, 07 Mar 2008 11:57:19 +0000 http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-449178 Consider also, Eman, that we may sometimes know and have as cherished friends people with carefully masked, untreated personality disorders. And should you become close enough to one of them to discover this--and someone as perceptive as you eventually would--they will come after you. First casting you from their lives in a heartbeat and then doing all in their power to all but kill you. (Don't rule out the latter if the opportunity presents.) Typically, it's someone you've been close to for years, the sort of a relationship in which your families are close friends--shared holiday dinners, parties, work-lunch, jokes, emails, common cause against workplace trolls. Sometimes, if you're the intended victim of such a person, you will eventually discover that you are not their first victim. (Ever see the Mike Douglas movie, "Fatal Attraction?" Well, not quite that bad.) I am apparently but one of a long chain of males with whom a friendship was carefully established over a period of several years so that it might be ended abruptly for maximum carnage. (The person in question is in a long-term abusive relationship. Her psychological makeup--she was an abused child--is such that she cannot strike back at her abusive spouse, but instead she has become a serial stalker of males.) In my case, the attempt to get me fired by filing a false harassment report with our boss ended when I was forced to counterattack, demonstrating quite clearly that my old chum suffered from untreated Borderline Personality Disorder manifesting as Stockholm Syndrome. She is now widely regarded by our management as "slightly off" and someone who, though desirous of a management position, will never have one. That set-to began in August. It is now March. Some days she forgets that she's supposed to hate me and we do chat for for a while, exchanging jokes like the old days, then she often stops in mid-sentence, looks confused, mumbles something and flees. But at least the well-poisoning has stopped. And no one ever sits with her at lunch. And as our colleagues, all women, were so quick to believe her slander and rush to support their wounded sister--she's a natural actress--I never, ever socialize with them; communications are official and in writing. Mental illness one can understand, but the eager willingness of those who are not so challenged to join the mob is quite appalling. It did compel me to lose a great deal of weight, work out, and most of the time now affect a dark look and darker clothing. I've gone from the jolly old gentleman to the Cold Duke, my whole affect saying "Don't screw with me." I'm quick to report any significant violations of rules and laws to our management, not even trying to resolve them informally. I am feared. I should be. Happily, the management likes me--I'm considered effective. And I am. Looking forward to more of the same next school year. Though I admit I'm somewhat appalled at how hard I've had to become--the price of professional and emotional survival. My, that was long. As always, thank you for letting me vent on your website rather than having to maintain me own. :) Cheers Consider also, Eman, that we may sometimes know and have as cherished friends people with carefully masked, untreated personality disorders. And should you become close enough to one of them to discover this–and someone as perceptive as you eventually would–they will come after you. First casting you from their lives in a heartbeat and then doing all in their power to all but kill you. (Don’t rule out the latter if the opportunity presents.) Typically,
it’s someone you’ve been close to for years, the sort of a relationship in which your families are close friends–shared holiday dinners, parties, work-lunch, jokes, emails, common cause against workplace trolls.

Sometimes, if you’re the intended victim of such a person, you will eventually discover that you are not their first victim. (Ever see the Mike Douglas movie, “Fatal Attraction?” Well, not quite that bad.)

I am apparently but one of a long chain of males with whom a friendship was carefully established over a period of several years so that it might be ended abruptly for maximum carnage. (The person in question is in a long-term abusive relationship. Her psychological makeup–she was an abused child–is such that she cannot strike back at her abusive spouse, but instead she has become a serial stalker of males.)

In my case, the attempt to get me fired by filing a false harassment report with our boss ended when I was forced to counterattack, demonstrating quite clearly that my old chum suffered from untreated Borderline Personality Disorder manifesting as Stockholm Syndrome. She is now widely regarded by our management as “slightly off” and someone who, though desirous of a management position, will never have one.

That set-to began in August. It is now March. Some days she forgets that she’s supposed to hate me and we do chat for for a while, exchanging jokes like the old days, then she often stops in mid-sentence, looks confused, mumbles something and flees. But at least the well-poisoning has stopped. And no one ever sits with her at lunch. And as our colleagues, all women, were so quick to believe her slander and rush to support their wounded sister–she’s a natural actress–I never, ever socialize with them; communications are official and in writing. Mental illness one can understand, but the eager willingness of those who are not so challenged to join the mob is quite appalling.

It did compel me to lose a great deal of weight, work out, and most of the time now affect a dark look and darker clothing. I’ve gone from the jolly old gentleman to the Cold Duke, my whole affect saying “Don’t screw with me.” I’m quick to report any significant violations of rules and laws to our management, not even trying to resolve them informally. I am feared. I should be. Happily, the management likes me–I’m considered effective. And I am.

Looking forward to more of the same next school year. Though I admit I’m somewhat appalled at how hard I’ve had to become–the price of professional and emotional survival.

My, that was long. As always, thank you for letting me vent on your website rather than having to maintain me own. :)

Cheers

]]> By: Eman http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-449001 Eman Fri, 07 Mar 2008 09:43:36 +0000 http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-449001 Jasim, you do seem to have been through a lot worse than what I've been through! God! this is upsetting, I mean the fact that you reached a conclusion to say most of people are evil until they prove otherwise means you've suffered a lot for sure. But you seem like a very nice guy, so I wont try to change your mind but I'd just try to lower the percentage a bit if I were you. Good people like yourself suffer but I wish you'll meet really good people as yourself and have them give you back your faith in our race :) Sha, you're absolutely right and I totally agree with you, especially the "learned behavior" part! Thanks a lot for your comment. Jasim, you do seem to have been through a lot worse than what I’ve been through! God! this is upsetting, I mean the fact that you reached a conclusion to say most of people are evil until they prove otherwise means you’ve suffered a lot for sure.
But you seem like a very nice guy, so I wont try to change your mind but I’d just try to lower the percentage a bit if I were you. Good people like yourself suffer but I wish you’ll meet really good people as yourself and have them give you back your faith in our race :)

Sha, you’re absolutely right and I totally agree with you, especially the “learned behavior” part!
Thanks a lot for your comment.

]]> By: Sha http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-446606 Sha Wed, 05 Mar 2008 21:59:03 +0000 http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-446606 Really gets your blood boiling huh? Like it or not, hypocrites exist everywhere and the worst thing is I think it is a learned behaviour. People pick it up from their parents, friends, etc. thinking it is alright (and even cool) to behave that way. You can make a difference by not being one of them and by setting a good example of what a sincere person is. And of course, by writing this entry :) Really gets your blood boiling huh? Like it or not, hypocrites exist everywhere and the worst thing is I think it is a learned behaviour. People pick it up from their parents, friends, etc. thinking it is alright (and even cool) to behave that way.

You can make a difference by not being one of them and by setting a good example of what a sincere person is. And of course, by writing this entry :)

]]> By: Jasim http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-444826 Jasim Tue, 04 Mar 2008 17:18:49 +0000 http://aquacool.subzeroblue.com/2008/03/04/too-good-to-be-false/#comment-444826 Well, I had my share of dealing with bad people, I guess more than my share! But here's what I have learned about people, ALL of them: 1) People are evil, until proven good. 99% of them, don't. 2) If I hate someone, I stay away from him/her, that's why I'm.. Well okay I hate most of the people, I mean they really are EVIL! Anyway, I salute your way of dealing with hypocrites, after all, they're not worth it. Well, I had my share of dealing with bad people, I guess more than my share! But here’s what I have learned about people, ALL of them:

1) People are evil, until proven good. 99% of them, don’t.

2) If I hate someone, I stay away from him/her, that’s why I’m.. Well okay I hate most of the people, I mean they really are EVIL!

Anyway, I salute your way of dealing with hypocrites, after all, they’re not worth it.

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