As for teenagers, just remember these words: moodiness, sensitivity, hormones, crushes,independence, and 7abb shabab

And of course I know Rim Nour yaaaah, salmili 3aleaha ballah kteer ok!

Dalia, ya sitti no problem, il mohem that our kids become great individuals in the end and ma ywatto rasna

Will update my blog concerning Adam’s adventure, I’m just observing now, allah yostor

no bel3aks - I agree with what you say - every family is different and you choose what’s best..

Now I’m just waiting for the update on how Adam’s first day went!!

Best wishes and kisses to you all
XOXO

Rim N is the young lady, a mover-shaker, in Jordan with Musaliha and many other compelling interests, it seems. she did sound as if she knows you

I know every family is different, hell every parent within one family is different, and every child is different, also I have no right to say what’s right or wrong, I’m not an expert on child raising, and I have no experience as a mother, I just did my search, observed other people’s life experiences, decided with Marwen what we wanted for our child (fortunately we’re on the same page) and followed my instincts as a mom, and that post was a documentation of what Marwen and I thought was best, and what I strongly believed -and still believe- myself, and I have noted that it was my personal opinion… I was just writing every single thought that crossed my mind ever since I had my son, and to me, not you, not anyone else, I thought it was so wrong to send him when he was too young. I was terrified of the stories I hear about child abuse/ child sexual harassment in daycares, and to think he might experience such a thing,and not even know it’s wrong, or know it’s wrong but not be able to let me know about it, was out of the question.
That’s besides what I mentioned above in my post.

And yes, being 24/7 doesn’t always mean it’s being done in the right healthy way, you have to be loving it, ready for it, and not feeling redemption or regret or the loss of anything else, a crazy mom who hits her baby, or someone who felt that her baby robbed her something will never be there in her body and soul, and might even have a negative impact on her child.

I’m not saying that my method was stress-free, I had very hard times, and being a workaholic myself, I felt I’m missing out on something, but I just couldn’t convince myself that being around in some company would do me, my personality, my confidence or my sanity any better than being around my son. Again, that’s just me. I didn’t feel like I’m compromising, or making one hell of a sacrifice, I was thrilled and enjoyed every second of every day, even the most stressful ones. It wasn’t just taking care of his hygiene, health and feeding, I raised him as a friend, with whom I enjoyed my time, even when he was a few months old, it wasn’t just standard mother duties, I seriously believed in structuring his personality as soon as that.

Anyway, I hope that you’ll find a job soon in Canada, or do as I did, turn to freelancing, it was the perfect solution for me, and inshallah in no time you’ll have a bigger social circle there and you’ll be able to follow your own method of raising your kids.

Take care, regards to Duri, and kisses to your angels

So you met someone from Tunisia who likes both our blogs? that’s such an honor is she a blogger? there’s a very big chance we might already know her.

Please keep in touch, and hope you yourself are having a great time inshallah.

Inshallah you’ll meet your other half and you’ll have a family of your own, and remember me then sis

While I do agree with you about how important a mother’s role is in her children’s early years is, I just have to point out that being around 24/7 does not always translate into being there for your children.. (of course I don’t mean you here)..

Many many stay-at-home moms spend most of the days not really interacting with their children.. while some full-time working moms spend just a few hours a day with their kids, but it’s real quality time..

The thing is, there is no right and wrong in both cases.. you work out what’s best for you and your family and make it happen..

I chose to go back to work when Sanad was 5 months old (he went to daycare). I did not HAVE to work to support my family, but i did have to work to protect my SANITY.. I was unhappy being a stay at home mom (and am now as well). I reached a point where a part of me resented my son for taking my identity away from me and Duri would find me in tears when he got home.. I was not prepared for this and felt so guilty..

We both decided that going back to work part-time would be a good solution..

It was tough.. Especially with no one to help at home, and Sanad getting sick a lot and me having to take time off to stay with him. But I was happy.. Happier than I had been for a long time.

And - a happy mother makes a happy baby..

Sanad today is (mashallah), the most well-adjusted, happy, confident and outgoing little boy I have ever seen.. He is fiercely independent and self-reliant, but he and I share a special bond that has been strengthened, not weakened by our time apart. I am his rock and he has never had seperation anxiety from me (even when he was a baby at nursery)..

I like to think that is because he is overflowing with my love for him, and has no doubt in his heart that I will be there for him and support him.. I am a constant in his life, and he feels it.

I worked for 4 years after that and have never looked back. If I went back, I would do it again. (Actually, I am very very unhappy these days, mainly due to the fact that I am not working :(). I am a better mom when I work; more organized, more attentive to my kids when I’m home, and I even take better care of MYSELF (like go the gym, eat healthy.. etc)..

Zayna is different.. She has a different character than him. Also very independent, but not used to socializing like he was at her age (because of our move and our social circle not being as big as in dubai). This worries me and I plan to put her in daycare twice a week starting January (or more if I find a job), just so she feels more comfortable around people..

To me, the most important thing I want to give my kids is self-confidence, and every kid is different, so I have to figure out how the best way to do that for each is..

I want my children to be social, confident, outgoing people who adhere to there principles and treat others with respect. I also want them to feel my love, support and guidance, even when I am not around them.

Anyway - sorry for my long-winded post.. I just felt I had to write from the other side of the fence..

Parenting is tough. It’s different for each family. There is no right way or wrong way.

Some women choose to breastfeed for years, others start with formula from day 1.

Some moms home-school their kids, others send them to school.

Many moms sleep with their kids in bed, others insist on seperate rooms.

It’s easy to form judgments about other parents (I am guilty of this myself), but it’s always good to remember that what is right for one person, will be wrong for someone else.

That’s why there is no manual with kids.. and a mom’s instinct is the most important guide..

It’s not easy, but somehow we manage..

Here’s to us - the greatest people in the world - MOMS!!!

Bravo, bravo bravo 3alaykum on your parenting philosophy. Leaving early childhood development to anyone but a parent is, in my bold opinion, a travesty of God’s gift of children.

Hell your mom was saying after your phone call: “ya allah hl eman sho bteshbahni b9efat.ha”
& I hate this

Anyways, FYI, I dont think I can be as good as you and Amani in this aspect of life,,, heheeh, I guess I’ll be fighting with my babies over Cerelac and farley’s